Save Your Relationship
Have you looked at recent statistics on marriage and divorce? There has been a decrease in marriage over the past few years and those who do get married have a bigger chance of getting a divorce. According to statistics, almost half of all marriages these days end up in divorce. There may be numerous reasons for a couple to end up divorced but it is safe to say that the marriage did not work because the relationship has become faulty.
Why did our Relationship Stop Working?
A relationship is composed of two people. Knowing the differences between individuals, it is reasonable to say that a relationship will not run smoothly at all times. Arguments and misunderstandings can never be avoided. Often, your biases as a person or the way you think will affect where these arguments will stem from. A person who is part of a relationship will bring the way he thinks to the partnership and this will help determine whether the relationship will work or not. If you or your partner no longer feel important or rewarded in a relationship, it will most likely die down in time. And how important or rewarded you feel can come from or be fixed by changing our negative thoughts or beliefs about your partner or relationships in general.
How do my Negative Thoughts Ruin our Relationship?
You, as part of a relationship, maintain certain beliefs about your partner. You may not realize it but these beliefs are often negative. These negative beliefs or negative thoughts contribute to the demise of your relationship. If left unchecked, they will fuel your biases and you will end up resenting your partner.
One example of a negative thought is thinking that it is impossible for your partner to change since he or she has this particular negative personality trait. You have a belief that they have a certain negative nature or character and that this makes it hard for your relationship to work. Another example of a negative thought is believing that one conflict or misunderstanding is an indication that the relationship is doomed. A single fight makes you lose hope. Other beliefs that will ultimately ruin your relationship are some rules that you think you should follow in a relationship. Some of these rules are fairly unreasonable.
How will Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Save our Relationship?
Since it has been established that your negative thoughts help ruin your relationship, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) will address these negative thoughts. By undergoing cognitive behavioral therapy, you will know the best way to deal with arguments or expectations in a relationship. In fact, cognitive behavioral therapy will give you techniques that will address your negative thoughts.
Cognitive behavioral therapy, for instance, will help you look at things in perspective. Instead of thinking that one conflict is a sign of a doomed relationship, cognitive behavioral therapy will teach you how to focus on the positive aspects of your partnership. Cognitive behavioral therapy will teach you how to accept the fact that conflicts do happen but there is a way to deal with them without letting your negative thoughts control the outcome of the fights. Cognitive behavioral therapy will also make you come up with proof of your negative thoughts. You will be asked whether your partner actually has this particular negative personality trait or is it just your personal bias?
Being aware of how your thoughts can affect your relationship will do wonders. By undergoing cognitive behavioral therapy, you might just save you from being part of some disturbing statistics.